Our Biggest Problem

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In this blog, I am going to share the my thought about ego. I doing same mistake in  my life during past time. After that, I am slowly reducing ego and it's automatically reflect in my life. So, this blog mainly for young generation or early or late 20's. 

Think before speak:

The highest and important quality need to be change by today young is ,"They're react immediately without thinking about effort". When we say something, they quickly get resented and upset. For example, Somewhere in a friendship, when they started feel bad about situation. Then immediately they say, "I will not speak to you or that friend" Or  "I will not speak to that girl or that group". 

Same as, I have seen in my school also, like a girl or boy would have been friends with others for few days or hours, after that, he sees them as an enemy for the rest of years. Mostly they have spend very little time with each other or they have a different likes. Then they will makeup the mind that, " He is not suitable for me, so I need to avoid him".  When he comes to 10th, he realised his mistake and say "sorry" to him. After that end he moved to high studies for 11th and 12th, he would have changed to another school. 

Even in companies, we can see incident behaviour like allegations or fight for petty things, because of misunderstanding. When you search for the reason for problem, it is mostly the "Immature ego", which plays the main role for most of us in our life. 

Now a day, the child is not ready to get defeated or adjust by/with the mother or father. For example, When the mother cooks the food for them, but it is not as taste as friend mom or hotel. Then he says that he will not have it for now. So, make something better for me or purchase something in hotel. 

Mistake of this generation:

This blog mainly for today's generation, who are not able to identify the differentiate between "Caring and Teasing". When someone is saying something to you with care or to tease to you. Both of it will not going to bother or affect them because that comment for you, and Only for you.

1. The one who is teasing us, it should not going to get bothered them or you.
2. The other one who wishes us to correct us by giving feedback are also not important to us.

Because it is not going to affect them, they are going to be the same as always. So mostly, When anyone teases other and the one who got teased is hurt always, not a bully. 

The question is, "When you get hurt, what are you going to do?" Before saying anything thing, please think about it carefully. When they say some word, it can be tease you or change you. But whatever you think, you may be wrong with this generation because they are so hasty, very hasty. "Either they come out of that team or quit the job". After that they keep saying that, "I will not go back there". How many have done, touch your heart and tell me in the command.

Common problem:

Yes including me, because I making the same decision till now, i trying to change it slowly. So many people today lost their previous opportunity or job, only because of our EGO. It is only because of your reaction quickly without understanding the base. You reaction so quickly and conclude with judgment.

Most basic lesson is, When someone tells something in somewhere, then that is the place where our first stage of learning begins. Not all comments are learned to the skill to express their wish. Some may express in a way it hurts you or destroy you. Always keep this in your mind, "Intension are very very straightforward". So take that, improving your skills. They wish it must be done in the right way. So You should observe it and start growing. This is one thing. 
Best example, when your mother scolds you, what should you do? She is doing this just for your growth or improvement. When your boss scolds you, then he may be scolding you for his business. What is good in it? You are going to develop your technical skills. So stay positive. So when positive person scold you, it is for your positive. How does it look? It may look negative something, but it is for positive. I will come to the next step.

Teasing others:

If someone teases you, Now what is their intention? Their intention is negative. What is their action? It is negative. But you can take this is two ways.

Just ignore and let it aside and taking the next step boldly is positive for you. When someone scolds you and you are able to handle it means you become positive and improving. In fact, today many people's in his life, like big CEO's, big owner and big company owner, who are successful with the money and life is. They programmed in their mind, how to intake the words from the people around them.When anyone teases you, "How it will reach your ears?" They start to behaviour like they hearing nothing, it's for good only. Whatever happens around you, you will start feeling that they are for our good only. With this thought, who is taking the next step is the courageous man. 

My biggest request and lesson for this generation is, "Kindly never take everything in a wrong way". For what all we doing is think about wrong and correct. What are you going to do by mistaking your parent's words? If anyone tells wrong things to hurt you, you take it wrong. But if you want to go the next level, what you should do? You should reframe it and have it in another way. It's okay. Everything is for good only. If someone teases you, then okay fine. Think about how your work will be done. If I quit this and come out, what will happen? You will lose your things. When you are asked which is important for you? getting work done is a wise choice. It's true. If you have your thing done, then that itself will take you to a great level one day. 

Conclusion:

Listen carefully, with the attitude of what they can do to other. If I get angry on my mother or father, it's ok with your mother and father. Then same you get angry on your college, your office, in companies and classes etc., Finally you will get destroyed by yourself. When someone is angry on you. And if you search for any opportunities to change yourselves, is the wise one. If anyone tells something, if you go on think of it, and stick to it, who is the loser?? For you only. You are the loser. Getting things done or losing it, which is important? Getting things done is a wish choice. Now you're in living a normal life in front of four people for today or living the best life in front of four hundred people for tomorrow. Which is big? Live boldly my friend.
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