Hi friend, in this blog
we are going to discuss about mental illness. Most of time I said to myself
that people with mental illness are real people too. Many of them will not
understand that mental illness is not virus or diseases, its just depression or
stress which happen with them.
There is a secret; one that few people is prepared to talk about; one so shocking it may bring down society as we know it. Am I talking about a scandal, or some sort of political corruption? Am I talking about some secret society that quietly rules over us, or perhaps I am talking about the fact we are all lizard people. While I would infinitely prefer to talk about any one of these things, I am in fact talking about the truth that, literally, nobody is talking about. I am talking about the fact that people with mental illness walk among us.
I hear your words and
sighs like "not this again" "haven’t we already talked about this?" and "trust me I
hear you". In essence you are right; people with mental illness are no longer
labelled as “crazy” or “psychos” and that’s great, it really is, but the sad
truth is, we’re not being talked about as real people either. We are not seen
as human beings, who happen to have various conditions, but we are in fact seen
as the embodiment of the conditions themselves. I know my friend is suffer with bipolar and
yet many people feel obliged to tell to him that he is bipolar. How would you feel
if I said that you “were” varicose veins, or you “were” diabetes?
The fact is that people
with mental illness are not often talked about badly anymore, it seems we are
just, quite simply, not talked about, not in any meaningful way anyway. I see
people putting up posts on my Facebook all the time, with one off little
comments on how they’ve struggled, and that’s great - more power to them, but
these are just fleeting moments of support, that quickly fizzle and burn out.
There is no substance to them.
More and more people are
talking to their families about
mental illness, which is amazing, but let’s be honest, would you tell your
work colleagues or
your footy friends?
Then there are the types
of illnesses that we talk about. While we are all greatly aware that there are
people with anxiety or depression out
there, it appears that illnesses like psychotic illness i.e. eating disorders and personality
disorders are to be exempt from this feeling of understanding
and tolerance. It shocks me, that even in recent period the only time I read about
these types of illnesses are either in sensationalist
articles or articles about violence and murder. Many
celebrities are willing to come forward in support of anxiety and depression,
but only a handful will come forward to support “unpopular” illnesses.
And that’s another
point, do celebrity endorsements really help? While it gets the word out there
and spreads the message of tolerance, it also makes mental illness seem a
far-off thing, only to be worried about by the rich and famous who don’t really
walk among us. Well, they do.
Then there are the
prejudices of mental health services themselves. Having suffered with an eating
disorder, I can tell you that it isn’t all about weight. Yet eating disorder
services have to give out resources on, guess what, weight criteria, leaving
anyone who isn’t severely underweight feeling lost and abandoned.
I’m not saying that
we’re not talking at
all. Some people with mental illness are proactive in getting the word out
there, but many are afraid to, out of fear and stigma. Maybe if we talked more,
we would find that people are more tolerant than we think. This is not supposed
to be a rant at people, it is merely supposed to be a message that what we say
is important and can make a huge difference.
People are more than
happy to talk about their “success” in recovery, but very few will talk about
the constant risk of relapse, or their bad days. This gives the wrong message
that mental illness is something to be “overcome”, rather than lived with.
There is a lot out there in the world, a lot of noise, but I wonder if we cut
through the politics and the media hype, we may find that just talking might
help.
People with mental
illness are not locked away,
nor are they off in the distance somewhere, they are here with
us. They are our doctors, our friends, our mothers and firefighters, they are
our partners, or siblings, our teachers, and they are allowed to have bad days.
So, next time you are out at the public, or about to make a Facebook post, next time you go shopping with your friend or you stop for a five-minute chat in your lunch break, just remember this piece and maybe try to talk about it. You never know, you might just be surprised.